This is my method for dealing with shyness in any given situation and I put it here in the hope that it might help someone else who is shy.
I decided to connect the stages of The Sunshine Star with the eye accessing cues from NLP to give each stage some support and to give my brain a workout at the same time.

So, if one is left handed one would start on the left and if one is right handed one would start on the right. It’s important to know which is which!

1. Unexpected Attention. All my shyness starts with unexpected attention. I can plan all I like or feel supremely confident but something will happen, I’ll shift into another sense system or something and I’m panicking. I’ve put this in my visually creative path because when I panic my imagination runs away with itself and I can’t control it. 

2. Sympathetic Reasoning. Here I need to realise that my predicament is just a human predicament and things will get resolved or move on. It’s good for me to use the sub-modalities mentioned in NLP here and make pictures smaller, sounds quieter or whatever. Check it out!

3. Assume Friendliness. Ok, the first of the two big hitters. With shyness I am basically over-imagining that people want to harm me or try and kill me or something and I don’t know how to stop it.
Assuming friendliness is a very useful assumption on my part in order to put me into a resourceful state and I like to back this with some good feeling.

4. Share Respect. The second big hitter. Now I’m levelling, I’m saying that respect here is mutual for everyone including myself. No need for identity escapism of any kind here. We are all equal. I also call this first person authority as I feel like I am informing my unconscious of what to do. Not exactly sure of the mechanics here but it works for me.

5. Complimentary Words. I’m now taking control of the situation. Compliments are one way of getting people to like me. I don’t necessarily need to say anything to anyone, but I’m now in a positive state to do so if required

6. Collected Cool. I’m picking up on the collective vibe of the situation, I’m blending into the people around me as part of the situation. This is where I go when I’m having my photograph taken as it seems to work very well.

7. Adapted Identity. I now need to adapt and identify with this new, more confident me, so that I don’t go back to where I was. I should be in a good enough state to do this now and I can draw from past confident me’s if required

8. Accepted Control. I’m handing control of the situation back to my unconscious, I will soon move on from this state and be more resourceful in dealing with the situation again in the future. I think of this as third person authority.

9. Desire Conscious. I’m returning to a desire focussed state from a self aware state. I can wind down this process and move on. I am now spiralling into the centre.

10. People Management. I can handle the situation and the people involved. I can deal with them as they are or literally manage them if I need to. I’m back to normal and this process has finished.

If I ever get stuck I just go back to the beginning and start again or just go to whichever one appears relevant at the time.

With accessing cues it is good to ‘look’ in the relevant directions. However, I found that once I had become familiar with them, I could simply ‘think’ in the relevant direction and the processing would still ‘sort of’ work. Therefore I can use The Sunshine Star in public without anyone having the slightest idea I am using it!

Recently I was in a situation where I started to panic. As I did so I saw in the back of my mind, an image of the sea and behind the sea was an image of The Sunshine Star beginning to rise. As soon as I saw it I stopped panicking and The Sunshine Star began to sink back down behind the sea. After that I knew I had a working system.

If you are shy and want to try this then have fun, work with each part until you are familiar with it and hopefully it can help you as much as it has helped me. At least it can let you know that shyness can be managed and maybe you can invent your own solutions. My average recovery time is now roughly around 1-10 seconds, I can live with that.